Crib, Car Seat & Conversations: What to Ask Before Baby Arrives
Becoming parents is one of the most transformative experiences a couple can go through. The anticipation, the unknowns, and the excitement of welcoming a new life often come with big shifts—personally, relationally, and practically.
Taking time to reflect together before your baby arrives can help you feel more emotionally grounded and relationally aligned as you step into this new chapter. These questions won’t solve every challenge ahead, but they will start the conversations that matter most.
Emotional & Relational Preparation
What are each of us most excited about—and most nervous about—becoming parents?
How do we expect our relationship to change after the baby is born?
What does support from my partner look like when I’m feeling overwhelmed or low?
How do we plan to stay connected as a couple (not just co-parents)?
How can we show grace to each other during sleepless nights and stressful moments?
Parenting Values & Expectations
What kind of parenting style do I imagine myself having? How were we each parented, and how do we want to be similar or different?
What values do we hope to pass on to our child?
How do we want to handle discipline, routines, and screen time?
What role will extended family play in our child’s life—and what boundaries might we need?
Division of Practical Needs
How will we divide nighttime duties, diaper changes, and feedings?
What household tasks need to shift, and who will handle what?
What kind of outside help (family, friends, professionals) do we feel comfortable accepting?
How can we prepare for postpartum recovery—physically, emotionally, and relationally?
Mental Health & Self-Care
What signs should we look for if one of us is struggling with postpartum anxiety or depression?
What does self-care realistically look like in the early months—and how can we help each other make space for it?
What do I need to hear or feel to stay grounded when things feel hard?
Dreams & Identity
What are we most looking forward to sharing with our child—traditions, experiences, or lessons?
How do we each feel about the identity shift from individual/partner to parent?
What do we want our home and family culture to feel like?
You don’t need to have all the answers—just the willingness to ask the questions. Parenthood isn’t a test of perfection; it’s a daily practice of showing up, learning, and loving your way through the unknown.
Start the conversation now. Let it be imperfect, emotional, and full of grace. You’re not just preparing for a baby—you’re preparing to grow as a family.
